Meeting new people is inevitable, if not in physical reality, online or even in the mind. We make our own interactions to contemplate and reflect, and that need to interact is a fundamental element of our humanity. Without further ado, I'll address this topic from three perspectives.
1. Meeting People in General
2. The Person being Met
3. The Person doing the Meeting
1) Meeting people will happen. It's the same thing as kinetic molecular theory. It's impossible for humans to pass through solid boundaries per the characteristics of solid matter. All of the molecules in a contained space will collide with another molecule inevitably. The only thing that is different is, with enough conscious thought, we can decide a number of collisions. This is picking your battles, and this is extremely important. Depending on your goal, who you meet will change. To me, I decide who to meet by intuitively guessing their level of individual happiness. Others meet others based on looks, on talent, on sociability, on dependability, etc. But it's important to remember. It's very difficult to meet everyone. It isn't impossible, but one's personal bias will always factor. I have yet to meet anyone who was able to get along with everyone, and as far as experience is concerned, that shall hold. Another thing that holds true is one shouldn't feel entitled to be with anyone. If you don't want to be with someone else, you shouldn't force it. That's not meeting someone, that's just realizing you're very uncomfortable, a.k.a. meeting yourself. It happens naturally, and if you feel overwhelmed or pressured, you're not meeting someone.
That's not to say don't be scared to meet someone. And if you are met, don't be frightened right away. Keep an open mind - this segways nicely into #2.
2) The person being met will have any number of reactions to being met. They can be emotional or apathetic, happy or angry, frightened or excited. The point is understanding people's boundaries and carefully navigating them to find your way to the person. It's not easy, especially if the people are either full of previous scars or have never met another person before. Usually the people who are most easy to meet are the ones who have overcome something in their lives or have some feeling of self-confidence. They open up easier and have more stories to tell about themselves because they have fewer reasons to hold back. They have no more obstacles to overcome. These yield interesting discussions, but the visitations they provide are usually short - they open up too fast for much room to exercise mental dexterity. The most interesting people to meet are the ones that won't open up because of past history. The process is longer and more difficult, the effort is greater, and the result is usually much more appreciable. It's like opening a door with many locks. The more work is put in, the more the reward tends to be. Only great secrets lie behind guarded doors.
I admit, this sounds very inconsiderate, but I'll tell you why this is how I analyze people. This is because the ones with the greatest secrets are the ones who need the lockpick, and this moves right into #3.
3) Being a meet-er is great responsibility. For the ones who look for power and feel the need to control, being able to meet is a weapon that can cause a great deal of damage. For the ones who help heal and aim for general human happiness, being able to meet is a tool that enables a great deal of good work to be done. For me, being able to meet people out of my comfort zone opens many doors. I can establish myself easily within complete strangers and find their mental grief and sadness with relative ease. Coupled with patience, this becomes the path to healing and overcoming psychological burdens for many people. For one of my friends, we'll call him C, it is simply a way of gaining what is wanted and hurting people's feelings. The desire to control and overwhelm clouds C's judgement, and his ability to meet people becomes the ultimate hunting tool. Society accepts his presence, trust is easily given, and the abuse begins. Many realize too late the result of accepting C into their life; however, it is up to the ones who meet for altruistic reasons to stop the process before it is too late.
Everyone has the potential to be happy, and to push this forward with the ability to meet other people, one finds that it's not drugs and pills that solve the problems. Sometimes, all it takes is a friend.
Sometimes, all it takes is to meet someone who care.
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